If you find yourself struggling to set and follow through the goals you want to accomplish (in any area of life), this post is for you today.
I know this is a big topic. Like there are dedicated websites alone and people that pay big money for coaches to help them get out of their funk and reach their goals once and for all.
And you’re right, it’s not easy, but today we’re going to break it down into easy steps. Because no matter the size of your goals, the method I’ll be teaching you can guide you through even the most beastly of goals.
Before we move on, I’d highly recommend you grab the worksheet and checklist that will guide you every step of the way through a goal. This will help you set it up right from the start and take the right steps to get you closer every single day - no matter what!
I actually recommend using your worksheet as we go through this post. Go ahead and grab and it and follow along!
3 STEPS TO ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS
STEP 1: DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT
Before you start anything, you need to know what you want.
It seems simple, but it really throws people off every time. In fact, that’s one of the first questions I ask in my coaching sessions, and it’s surprising how many people don’t know what they really want.
Don’t say you want to feel better or change or lose weight. They’re good starting places, but they won’t get you to where you want to go. Dig deeper. WHAT do you want to feel better? Do you want more body confidence? Do you want more energy? Do you want to improve your sleep?
The key is to find something you really want and be specific about it. If you want to be able to run, that’s a great start, but how can you go further? Do you want to be able to run 20 minutes at a time or run a 5K? If you want to lose weight, how much do you want to lose? Or would you rather lose inches around your waist and track that progress instead?
Figure out what you want and then ask yourself why you want it. Why is this goal important to you? How will you feel when you’ve accomplished it? What are the feelings, the emotions, the sights, the sounds, surrounding this goal?
Remember, dig deep. You need to find a goal that’s meaningful to you. Ask yourself what you want to do and why it’s important to you. Then write it down somewhere.
STEP 2: CHANGE ONE HABIT AT A TIME
This is my favorite step. Because what usually happens when we set goals?
We want to #doallthethings… right?
We get this image of perfection in our minds. We’ll never eat sugar again, we’ll get rid of carbs, we’ll exercise every day, go to bed early, live a stress free life, and the list goes on and on.
But, then something happens. You eat one cookie, then you eat 5, and then you screw the whole diet altogether and say you’ll start Monday.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting small and in fact, the most successful people are the ones that start where they are and take small, manageable steps to get where they want to be.
You see, there may be essential skills you’ll have to learn along the way. If you commit to being patient and take it one day at a time, you’ll be able to overcome those hurdles and enjoy the rewards of consistency.
This is my favorite part about the checklist I’ve made for you - it guides you through how to break a goal into manageable steps and then how to choose what step to start out with.
STEP 3: STAY CONSISTENT
Ah, consistency. It’s hard. It’s where most of us fail.
But, it’s also where we can achieve greatness. You see, it’s consistency with the small things that add up to big things.
So, remember to stick to one simple habit at a time. I recommend choosing a habit that’s almost so easy it would be nearly impossible to fail. Then, work at it day in and day out. When you’re ready, take the next step. Make that habit just a little harder.
Think about it. Let’s say you want to lose weight and the first thing you want to work on is changing your diet. It’s probably not likely for you to eliminate everything you love from your diet and eat only fruits and vegetables, right? But, for some reason, that’s the first thing we go for.
When you are changing your nutrition, choose one thing to change at a time. First eliminate an extra carb at dinner and replace it with a vegetable. Do this for 2 weeks. Then, add a vegetable to each lunch. Then try to add one more serving of vegetable in a snack or throughout the day. All of the sudden, you’re eating way more veggies and less carbs, which has significantly decreased your caloric intake and you may have lost a couple pounds!
Sometimes we want quick results, but it’s important to realize that when we try to change everything at once for quick results, we often to even make it to the result. Or, we get there, but then haven’t learned the lifestyle and revert right back to our old ways.
So, if you’re not where you want to be, in any area of your life, start with the basics. Know what you want, create simple habits, and stay consistent with them.
If you want to learn more about creating simple habits and stick to them, head on over and check out this video by my friend BJ Fogg. His whole career is dedicated to helping people change behavior and he has some great stuff!